5.11.2010

Because Very Momma Said So.

Lately, Very Mary has been wondering whatever happened to the thank you card? Not the thank you text. Not the thank you email. Not the thank you facebook post. But the real, old-fashioned, handwritten thank you note.

When Very Mary was a kidlet, there was no choice about whether or not to write a thank you card, because Very Momma Said So. And maybe there was some grumbling under her breath and a fake plea of hand cramps, but Very Mary always wrote those thank you notes. And she still does. And Very Daughter writes thank you notes. And Very Mary's friends write thank you notes. But that's about where it ends. When did it become okay to not write a thank you note?
Here's what Very Mary would like : a thank you card revolution.
Buy some. Make some. Use a napkin or a scrap of paper. Anything. Heck, send a thank you postcard - it'll cost $0.28 and take about 3 minutes of time. Thank people through the regular old mail. Doesn't it feel good to be appreciated for what you've done? Very Mary loves a hearty pat on the back. And that's why she still writes thank you notes. A really real, tangible card to say thanks. It's easy. It's heartfelt. And to be quite honest, it's polite. If someone does something nice for Very Mary, the least she can do is thank that someone in a mannerly manner with real words written by her Very Own Hand.
Thank you.

9 comments:

Mary said...

Thank you, thank you (pun intended, lol). I have made and given many, many quilts as gifts to people for birthdays, graduations, baby showers, etc. and so often haven't even received an acknowledgement. I don't give the gift for the purpose of receiving a "thank you," but so often I wonder if they received it (if it was mailed), if perhaps they weren't happy with it, or whether they just assume I knew they were happy to receive it. Just a one line thank you note, "Thank you for the ..." would make my day.

Magpie said...

I love writing thank you notes. It gives me a chance to use all of the weird things that I can't bear to throw out.

Vallen said...

You're right.

see you there! said...

The people who send me thank you notes are the people who get more gifts. Simple as that. Ok, I will accept a "thank you" in person but that's the only exception to my rule.

Darla

TaDa said...

thank you .... You are so RIGHT... I love your blog

Yarni Gras! said...

I've never received a written (or verbal) thank you from my niece who is almost 30. Not for crocheted afghans, cute zoo aprons, fabulous (and expensive) yarn....not for
A N Y T H I N G. I know she knows better, my sister is a HUGE thank you note writer (even better than I am....) I guess it 'skips' a generation????
As for me, although I still write thank you notes, I think I've gotten lazy and write too many via email. That stops...today!

Rebecca said...

Agreed! I always send thank you notes. Not only is it proper (lol, because I'm SUCH a lady) but it's nice to get something in the mail other than bills. Simple as that! Plus, it's nice to know that something you did for someone else was appreciated. :)

e.beck.artist said...

i'm such a thank you note writer!!
i'll try to remember to take a pic of the thank you notes that i'm going to write today ... so i can blog it and further your petite revolution d'lettres .....

Gina E. said...

Hi Very Mary - I found you on Woof Nanny's blog and came over to say hi, after seeing your comment about collecting bias tape. Me too! I am thoroughly enjoying your blog, and had to comment on this post,if only to say 'ditto to all the above' about thank you notes. I'm in the same generation of thankyou-note-writers, and stopped giving my nieces and nephews gifts after 10 years of no responses to my gifts. Greedy ungrateful little pigs...